—Be Partners, Not Strangers—
Build a Simple, Fridge-Worthy Plan to Prevent Feeling Disconnected After Deployment!

The Bulletproof Your Reintegration Course
for Partners of Service Members.

You are a waiting warrior!

I see you. I hear you.

You “should” feel happy that your spouse is coming home, but instead, you’re feeling worried—wondering if life will ever feel “normal” again.

Feeling disconnected after deployment is a real fear, and it’s completely understandable. You’ve been managing everything on your own, and now you’re supposed to shift back into being a team, but…
What if it’s awkward?
What if the distance lingers?

And then there are the kids...

Will they be shy or even scared around the returning parent at first? Will they resist authority or refuse to listen since they’ve gotten used to just you?

You’ve worked so hard to create stability, and now you’re worried that reintegration will disrupt their routines, throw off sleep schedules, or create emotional outbursts that you don’t know how to handle.

It's a lot to carry!

It’s okay to feel both excited and overwhelmed. Reintegration is a process, not a single moment, and you don’t have to navigate it alone.

With patience, communication, and a plan, you can create a home where everyone—your spouse, your kids, and you—feels seen, supported, and connected again.

I've got you!

Imagine This...

Reintegration isn’t about returning to the past—it’s about creating a future that’s even better.

Amy Hawthorne Headshot

WOW! Is really all I can say. The time, energy, resources, prayer, thought, example, compassion, and leadership that Michelle puts into her products is truly remarkable.  I consider myself to be a pretty “seasoned” military spouse, and having served myself, I do feel as though I have a bit of an upper hand in understanding military lingo and obligations, etc. But even I’ve learned from Michelle.

Amy

@AmyLouHawthorne

Introducing...

The Reintegration Course For Waiting Warriors!

—Stay Partners, Not Strangers—
Build a Simple, Fridge-Worthy Plan so you
can navigate Reintegration with Love and Confidence

What You’ll Instantly Unlock
when you enroll in Bulletproof Your Reintegration:

Instructional Videos + more

You’ll get 31 short, easy-to-follow videos that break down simple, effective ways to make reintegration smoother as a couple. No fluff—just practical tips you can start using right away! Plus, you’ll have access to written and audio versions, so you can learn in whatever way works best for you.

Action steps + Track Progress

Big ideas are great, but real change happens when you take action! That’s why, along with the training, you’ll get simple, actionable steps each week—quick, easy ways to apply what you’ve learned right away. No overthinking, no overwhelm—just real progress you can track, one step at a time!

Community

Reintegration isn’t something you have to do alone! Get access to a private, distraction-free community of Waiting Warriors who truly get it. Get support, advice, and accountability—no Facebook required! It’s a dedicated space for real connection, helping you and your spouse thrive after deployment.

Support from Your Instructor

Hi! It's me, Michelle! In every lesson, you’ll have a direct line to me—just drop your question right inside the course, and I’ll personally respond. Plus, our conversation stays saved in the lesson, so you can easily revisit it anytime. Think of it as having a coach in your corner, ready to help whenever you need it!

Digital & Printable Worksheets

No more just watching and forgetting—these easy-to-use worksheets help you apply & process what you’ve learned! Print them out and fill them in by hand, or type your answers directly into the course where your responses are saved inside each lesson, so you can revisit your insights anytime.

Instant Lesson Summaries

Each time you complete an entire module, the course auto-magically generates a lesson summary for all the lessons in that module—so you can refresh your memory without rewatching or rereading. Plus, you can track your personal insights, making it easy to revisit key takeaways and see your progress. Quick, personalized, and hassle-free!

Effortless note Taking

Take notes right inside the course as you watch or read—no extra apps needed! Your notes are saved in each lesson and on a dedicated page where you can view everything in one spot. Stay organized and make learning stick!

On-The-Spot Support

Struggling to apply a lesson and unsure what to do? No problem! Each lesson includes quick, in-the-moment prompts to help you work through challenges and take action right away. No frustration—just simple guidance to keep you moving forward!

Earn Badges & Celebrate

As you complete each module, your badge auto-magically turns from grey to full color! 🎉 Reintegration is a journey, and every step forward deserves to be celebrated. Stay motivated, track your progress, and enjoy seeing your achievements come to life!

Plus, Celebrate Progress with Exciting Bonus Rewards!

Points and Prizes

I’m serious about helping you actually use this program so you and your spouse can reconnect in a meaningful way! That’s why you’ll earn points for completing lesson homework, checklists, and modules. As you earn points, you gain access to prizes like Expert Interviews, Coupons, and 1:1 time with me, Michelle! It’s a fun, motivating way to stay engaged and make real progress together! 🎉

Brittany Lanza leaning on her soldier husband

My favorite part is the personal examples Michelle provides of her family’s experiences. I learn through examples, so to see these tips in action and how it works for her and her family is very helpful.

Brittany

Military Spouse

Everything You’ll Learn in Bulletproof Your Reintegration:

Learn how to tackle problems together, stay strong during big changes, and have fun along the way. You’ll see how clear rules and caring for each other can bring you closer. These mindset skills will help you stay connected and handle reintegration with confidence.

Lessons:

Us Vs The Problem

Reintegration is tough—miscommunication and tension can pull you apart. But shifting to an “Us vs. the Problem” mindset turns conflict into connection and struggle into growth. 💙 You’re in this together.

Mindset of Rebuliding

Reintegration isn’t about going back—it’s about building something stronger. 💙 Change can be hard, but it’s also a fresh start. In Lesson 2, we’ll turn frustration into connection and change into opportunity.

Transitions Require Energy

You start deployment strong, but then exhaustion hits. 😩 And when your service member comes home? Instead of relief, you feel more drained than ever. Learn how to recharge and recover together.

Rules & Desires

In this lesson, we’ll dive into how to have open, honest conversations with your service member to set clear rules and expectations. This way, you can stay on the same page and tackle challenges as a team.

Fun Along The Way

Reintegration can be exhausting, but fun isn’t just a bonus—it’s essential! 🎉 Joy and laughter make the transition smoother. Let’s dive into why fun matters and simple ways to bring it back.

Not the Only One

Reintegration is more than a homecoming—it’s a whirlwind of emotions, and you’re not alone. This lesson tackles the realities of reintegration and gives you practical tools to navigate it with confidence.

Learn how to build stronger relationships by recognizing and stopping the Four Horsemen of bad communication, staying present, and showing Love and Respect. These simple skills will help you connect better, earn trust, and work well with others.

Lessons:

The 4 Horsemen

💔 Stuck in the same frustrating arguments? The Four Horsemen could be to blame—but you can fix it! ❤️ Learn how to replace toxic patterns with healthy communication and build a stronger, more loving bond. Let’s grow together

Be Present

Struggling to reconnect after time apart? Reintegration can be tough, but real connection starts with being truly present. Learn simple yet powerful ways to listen with love, rebuild your bond, and strengthen your relationship! ❤️

Love and Respect

💔 Conflict doesn’t have to push you apart—it can bring you closer when handled with love and respect. 💙 This lesson will show you simple shifts to create a more peaceful, connected relationship. Let’s turn conflict into connection—together!

Learn how to handle important conversations, stay calm when things get heated, and set fair expectations for each other. These simple but powerful skills will help you work as a team and build a strong, supportive relationship during reintegration.

Lessons:

High Stakes Conversations

Money, parenting, intimacy—tough talks don’t have to be stressful! 💬 This lesson gives you the tools to communicate with grace, handle challenges with love, and stay connected. 💕

Heated Conversations

Ready to handle tough talks with confidence? 💪 This lesson gives you powerful strategies to stay calm, communicate with grace, and keep conversations productive. Learn to take time-outs, avoid common pitfalls, and create space for understanding. Whether you’re reintegrating or just strengthening your bond, these tools will help you connect like a pro.

Realistic Expectations

🎉 Reunited—now what? Reintegration can be an emotional rollercoaster, from excitement to overwhelm. Whether you’re the service member or a loved one, this lesson helps you set realistic expectations, process emotions, and stay connected—without losing yourself.

Learn how to set clear boundaries, ask for help when you need it, and see counseling as a way to grow together. These skills will make reintegration easier, bring you closer, and help you build a stronger, more supportive relationship.

Lessons:

Boundaries

Reintegration can be overwhelming when everyone wants your time—but you’re allowed to set boundaries! 💪 This lesson helps you say “no” with love, protect your family’s healing, and prioritize what truly matters

Asking For Help

💖 Asking for help isn’t weakness—it’s love in action! This lesson breaks the stigma and shows you how to embrace support, from a helping hand to a listening ear. Let’s save our energy for what truly matters—rebuilding our families and ourselves!

Crazy For Counseling

Feeling stressed, anxious, or disconnected? Don’t wait until you’re overwhelmed! In Module Four of Counseling Is Just for Crazy People, we’re breaking the stigma around mental health—especially in the military community. 💪 From strengthening your marriage to handling long separations, this lesson gives you the mindset shift and tools to thrive. Counseling isn’t for “crazy people”—it’s for YOU! 🙌

Learn to work as a team by going at your kids’ pace, handling discipline together, managing overstimulation, and understanding each family member’s struggles. It’s all about building a stronger, happier family during reintegration!

Lessons:

Kid's Pace

Not every homecoming is a picture-perfect viral moment—and that’s okay! We’ll unpack why kids react differently and give you simple, powerful ways to reconnect. 💕 From small gestures to fun activities, you’ll learn how to make reunions meaningful and rebuild those precious bonds!

Discipline

Feeling overwhelmed handling discipline while your service member adjusts to home life? 😟 You’re not alone! This lesson gives you a step-by-step guide to smoothly reintegrate them as a parent—without tension or burnout. Learn how to balance patience, teamwork, and support so everyone feels heard. A healthy, united family is possible—let’s make it happen! 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦💪

Overstimulation

Reintegration is exciting—but why does everyone feel on edge? 😬 Overstimulation might be the culprit! This lesson breaks down how it affects your service member, kids, and even you—plus simple tips to ease the transition. Let’s make reintegration smoother and more connected! 💕

3-Way Paint Points

🤯 Juggling your service member, kids, and yourself can feel overwhelming—but it doesn’t have to! Learn how clear communication, self-care, and self-advocacy can bring peace and balance back to your family. 💕

Learn how to make smart money choices as a team, set goals you both care about, and handle your finances with confidence before and during reintegration. These skills will help lower stress, bring you closer, and build a strong and secure future together.

Lessons:

Just One

This module only has one lesson. See summary above!

Learn to face tough topics like combat stress, PTSD, spouse trauma, and puppy dog syndrome together. You’ll learn how to understand each other’s struggles and talk openly about them. These skills will bring you closer and make your partnership stronger during reintegration.

Lessons:

Combat Related Stress

Our brave service members carry the weight of their experiences long after they return home. The effects of combat don’t always fade, and they shouldn’t have to face them alone. By recognizing the signs of combat-related stress, we can offer the understanding, support, and care they need. Let’s stand together, stay informed, and show them they’re never alone. 💙

PTSD

Ever wondered what PTSD really is or how to support someone struggling with it? It’s more than just stress—it’s a deep response to trauma that can feel isolating and overwhelming. But healing is possible. With understanding, compassion, and the right support, things can get better. In this lesson, we’ll explore the signs, the difference between PTSD and combat stress, and practical ways to walk the path toward healing—together. 💙

Combat Related Stress for Military Spouses

Military spouses, if you’re feeling exhausted, stressed, or not quite yourself after deployment, you’re not alone. 💙 Combat-related stress doesn’t just affect service members—it touches everyone who loves them. The worry, the constant adjustments, and the weight of holding everything together can be overwhelming. But you deserve support, too. Healing is possible, and you don’t have to do it alone. 💪

Puppy Dog Syndrome

In the final lesson of Bulletproof Your Reintegration, we tackle “Puppy Dog Syndrome”—the struggle of wanting to be close to your service member while also maintaining your own sense of self. 💙 It’s normal to feel torn, but finding balance is key to a healthy, lasting relationship. Learn how to nurture your connection without losing yourself, avoid resentment, and prioritize your well-being. 💪💕

What you WON'T find:

Enroll Today & Start Your Reintegration Journey!

$99or 6 payments of $19
  • 7 Course Modules with a total of 31 lessons
  • All lessons in video, audio, and written format
  • Take action checklist for each lesson
  • Access to private community built into the course
  • Direct access to instructor, Michelle via question boxes in every lesson
  • Instant Lesson summaries provided for lessons inside modules you have completed
  • Worksheets in digital and printable formats
  • Take notes and they'll be saved for you inside the course
  • "In The Moment" prompts to help when you are struggling to apply what you've learned
  • Earn points, badges and bonus as yo ulearn
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Kelly

Home and Family Blogger

CityGirlMeetsFarmBoy.com

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I'm Michelle!

As a proud Army wife of 10+ years and mom to four little girls and a son in heaven, I know firsthand how tough reintegration can be. The distance, the adjustments, the miscommunications—it can feel like you’re walking on eggshells, trying to find your rhythm again. But here’s the good news: you don’t have to figure it out alone. With the right tools, a little creativity, and a clear plan, you and your spouse can stay partners, not strangers after deployment.

I grew up in Carlsbad, CA, right by Camp Pendleton, where my deep respect for service members and their families began. After earning my bachelor’s degree from BYU-Idaho, I turned my passion for supporting military and first responder families into The Waiting Warriors podcast, blog, and social media community—a space dedicated to helping military spouses and loved ones not just survive this life, but truly thrive.

Reintegration doesn’t have to mean frustration, distance, or feeling like roommates. That’s why I created Bulletproof Your Reintegration—to give you a step-by-step roadmap to navigate this transition smoothly. If you’re ready to communicate better, reconnect faster, and build a stronger, more resilient relationship, I’m here to help. Let’s make reintegration a time of growth—not struggle!

10 Reasons You’ll Love
The Bulletproof Your Reintegration Course

Military life isn’t easy, and our relationships are complex, but Michelle understands the journey and truly gives you tools to develop a healthy mindset and tackle tough transitions as a team.

Laura

@RealHouseWiseOfFigherPilots

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